Self Love Guide

Good Day, Beautiful People!

I stumble across this article about self love that I love to share with my fans here. If you are like me who is a natural giver can feel depleted and exhausted when we are not careful with people around us are mostly takers. We need to recharge and do self care and self love. It is essential and not selfish. Hope it helps you to kickstarts your own journey in this area as well.

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Be blessed!

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Treasure Today

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My mate shared this with me:

SOME DAY & ONE DAY

 _A friend of mine opened his wife’s wardrobe and picked up a silk paper wrapped package._

“This,” he said, “isn’t any ordinary package.”_

_He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box and silk satin dresses inside._

_”She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on , was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it.”_He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died.__He turned to me and said, “never save something for a ‘special occasion’. Every day in your life is a *’Special occasion'”*_

_I still think those words changed my life.__Now I read more and clean less.__I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.__I spend more time with my family, and less at work._*_I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through._*

_I no longer keep anything._

_I use crystal glasses every day.__I’ll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it._*_I don’t save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to._*_The words *’Someday….’ and ‘ One Day…’*are fading away from my dictionary.__If it’s worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now._

_I don’t know what my friend’s wife would have done if she knew she wouldn’t be there the next morning, this nobody can tell.__*Each day, each hour, each minute, is special.*_

_Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.__If you’re too busy to send this out to other people and you say to yourself that you will send it ‘LATER remember that LATER might never come…

You may or may not read this message before. If you did, may it serve as a kind reminder.

Life is too short for you not to treasure everyday. Be presence wherever you are. If we strife, we will never be happy, joyful and content. Look at what you have and been given, enjoy before it is all gone or too late.

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Celebrating Me in the Storms


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To all my followers, thanks for being patient with my updates. I have been sailing on high gale and furious stormy sea into deep and unknown for awhile.

Do you have one of those crazy times on your life that all stuff that are going on around you that going south or the uncharted road and feel like the invisible weight and burden is so unbearable!  In other words, the massive storms that seemingly unavoidable and keep coming at you. The worst part is you got hit more directions than one. All you do is like a fireman keep putting out fire in different areas all the time. The skepticism can built up as well as doubt the storms will ever cease.

All you can do is look up and gaze at the zillions sparkling bright stars sigh along with slow deep breathe. You may feel tired, overwhelmed, defeated, down, crush or drowning in the storms of life that is not created by you. Even wondering why this is happening to you?  The reality is bad things happen to good and bad people. The sun shines on the good and bad people. The rain and storms don’t discriminate the good and bad people. It may sounds crazy to some, spiritually, your future is so bright that the enemy want to come, kill and destroy now before you become uncontainable. So the only way I know is to be brave and courageous and keep fighting till I get my victory. Pause, rest and restore but never quit!

3 surgeries in less than 3 years does take a toll to the body.  Road to recovery is not as fast as I thought it will be.  The bright side to this was celebrating my Birthday in the hospital for the first time.

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Wander [errer; vagare; deambular; 漫步]


Good day, Beautiful People!

It has been awhile since I last wrote. My life is so full and is quite overwhelming with so many things to accomplish before end of the year.

Winter is finally over in the Southern Hemisphere, loving the new season of Spring where new things on the horizon! Expecting new roads and new rivers in this new season.

I believe we need to take time off regularly to quieten ourselves, be alone,  recharge, relax, chill to wander into nature. Take time to date yourself, do soul searching to know yourself better, love yourself and figure out what you really want in this season or near future.

Sharing with you some photos by me and my walking troops from my recent walkabout.


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Real Love doesn’t hurts 


Good Day, Beautiful People! 

Three months ago, I attended a charity high tea,  fundraiser for women suffered from domestic violence.  It makes me ponder about real love. 

Most young people will dream of having a lifetime of great romance, to find that someone special, the ultimate soulmate at some point. Unless someone has corrupted their minds to dream of that. Maybe someone has been living in the broken, fractured and dysfunctional family or environment for too long. It certainly become their norm. Psychologically and physically is damaging for anyone especially young children and youth that have no power to change their situation unless the adults rise up and make right decision and choices for the safety of the family. 

Truly, you are enough! You don’t need someone to complete you. That is the Hollywood romance movies try to make us feel that way. You are complete, whole and a beautiful unique masterpiece created by your Creator. So never settled for second best. Your soulmate is to add value to your life, to love, treasure, cherish and protect you like Christ loves His Bride. 

This is a good reminder for any single woman looking for love. Real love doesn’t hurt, a real man never hurts a woman. It is berserk to love somebody who hurt you constantly. Needless to say, is nutty as fruitcake to think someone who harms you loves you. Maybe is Stockholm Syndrome that the victims feel positive for the abusers. In most cases, they’re brain washed to the extent of protecting and defending the abusers.


6 Early Warning Signs of Abusive Relationship by Pamela Jacob.

1. He will romance you. He will buy you flowers and gifts. He will likely be the most romantic man you have ever met. He will pay attention to you and make you feel special and wanted. You may find yourself thinking that he is too good to be true — because he is. He needs you to trust him and develop feelings for him, because it is much easier to control someone who loves you. He will make you feel like you are his entire world — because he wants your world to revolve around him. Of course, just being romantic is not necessarily a sign of abuse. But, an abuser will often use these gifts and romance to distract you from other concerning behaviors, such as control and jealousy.  

2. He will want to commit — quickly. He will say that it’s love at first sight, that you are made for each other, and that he can’t imagine his life without you. He will sweep you off your feet, and tell you he has never loved anyone this much. He will insist on being exclusive right away, and will likely want to move in together, or even get married, very quickly. He needs you to love him, and to belong to him. You may feel like the relationship is moving too quickly — trust your instincts.    

3. He will want you all to himself. He will glare at other men for looking at you and question you about your male friends. You may think this jealousy is cute, or even loving — at first. But soon, he’ll make you feel guilty for spending time with friends or family. He will call or text you several times a day, and may accuse you of flirting or cheating. He will say he loves you so much, he can’t stand the thought of anyone else being near you. And soon, no one else will be. This is the beginning of isolation.  

4. He will be very concerned about you. He may get upset if you don’t call him back right away or if you come home late. He will say it’s because he worries about you. He will start to question who you saw, where you went, and what you were doing. He will mask his control as concern for your well-being. He will start to make decisions for you — who you spend time with and where you go — and claim to know what’s best for you. Soon, you’ll be asking his approval for every decision. Your control over your own life will slip away, as his power and control grows.  

5. He will be sweet and caring — sometimes. He will be the sweet, loving man who everyone else sees, and who you fell in love with. But, sometimes, he will become the man who puts you down, makes you feel guilty, and isolates you. He will make you believe that if you just did something differently, loved him more, or treated him better, he would be that sweet, loving man all the time. You will stay because of your hope for the man you love, but will spend most of your time being controlled by the man who hurts you. Eventually, you won’t be able to tell the difference. 

6. He will play the victim. If he gets in trouble at work, it’s someone else’s fault. If he has a bad day, someone is out to get him. And if he is upset, he will blame you for his feelings and actions. He will expect you to make him happy and fulfilled — and when he’s not, he will blame you. He may apologize for yelling, putting you down, or hurting you, but will always find a way to make it your fault. He will say things like, “It’s just that I love you so much,” or “I wish you didn’t make me so crazy.” Eventually, he will blame you for making him hit you. 

If these warning signs are happening in your relationship, even if he has not hit you (yet), this is abuse. Control, jealousy, and isolation are not love. And abusive behavior will not change — no matter how hard you try, or how much you love him. This man may seem like your dream come true, but soon, he will become your worst nightmare. 


Tips on How to get out of Abusive Relationship by Roogirl.com

1. Recognize the Signs

The first step is to recognize the fact that you are in an abusive relationship. Denial is a strong force that can keep us in toxic situations far longer than is safe or necessary. You may feel that your partner is an overbearing jerk, but he’s not that bad. Until you acknowledge the behavior as abusive, you won’t be motivated to take action. Here are a few of the signs:

Controlling: takes charge of the household money; demands to know your whereabouts; threatens to leave or throw you out; forces you to socialize, even if you don’t feel like it; withholds affection or attention; tells you how to dress; makes sure that the one thing you want is exactly what you won’t get.

Isolation: causes a riff between you and your family; slowly makes you stop spending time with your friends; all of his friends are now your friends; doesn’t allow you to go places without him; withholds money so you can’t go anywhere.

Crazy-making: blames his mistakes on others; is a different person in public than he is at home; changes history (denies saying or doing something that you know he did); tells you you’re too sensitive; has unpredictable mood swings; twists your words and uses them against you.

Emotional: disrespectful to you; harms animals or things you love; rolls his eyes at you; humiliates you privately or in public; seems energized by fighting; says things that make you feel good but does things that make you feel bad; treats you like a sex object.

Physical: hitting; pushing; blocks you from leaving the room or house; holds you down; forces you to have sex.

If you are experiencing these things in your relationship, seek help immediately.

2. Disengage

Before preparing to leave your abusive partner, you need to regain some of your power. First of all don’t announce that you are leaving him. It will only make your situation escalate or he will act like the perfect partner for a while until he begins abusing you again. However, you can stop the pattern of: abuse, guilt, excuses, normal behavior, fantasy, set-up then back to abuse. Instead disengage when he tries to bait you into an argument.

3. Secretly Save Money

If your abusive partner controls finances, this can be difficult but not impossible. Get a post office box that any mail from the bank can use to send statements. If you don’t set up a secret account, find a place away from the house to hide your money. A few alternate places are a locker at work, with a trusted friend or a safe deposit box. If you receive your paycheck through direct deposit, have some of it go into a different account.

4. Get Help

Many women stay in abusive relationships because they are too embarrassed to tell their friends and family. If their partner acts like Mr. Perfect when he’s in public, they may feel that no one will believe them. Although your family and friends love you, you may have trouble believing it if you’ve been emotionally beaten down. You can also find help through online sites or local women’s shelters. This is not something you have to go through alone.

5. Get Documentation

This is a two-fold process. You want to get documented proof that you are being abused. If you are getting a divorce or have children it is imperative to prove to the court that your partner is abusive. Take pictures of any physical abuse; save any abusive messages or emails; keep a dated journal; talk to your doctor and call the authorities when he is abusive.

You also want to have copies of all your important documents and keep them safe. Once you leave, he’s not going to politely hand over your tax records, birth certificate and insurance information.

6. Pack a SHTF Bag

You want to have an emergency bag already packed and hidden in case the shit hits the fan and you need to get out in a hurry. Have clothes for you and your children, some but not all of your money, a key to the car and a spare cell phone. If you fear for your life and need to leave the house in a moment’s notice, you want to be prepared.

7. Have a Safe Word

Have a safe word in place with any people involved, including your children, that will let them know if you are ok in the moment or if it’s a “code red” situation.

8. Have a Place to Go

Know where you will be going when you leave. This may seem like an obvious thing, but when you are in the moment it may be difficult to think. You also don’t want to worry people involved in helping you if they find that you’re not at home or if they get a call from your soon-to-be-ex. If you’re planning to stay with a friend or family member, make sure you have a key to their home. If you are leaving during an emergency situation, you’ll need a way to get inside if they aren’t home.

9. Call for Back-up

If all goes according to plan and you have movers reserved to move your things, let the police know ahead of time. They will be there to make sure there isn’t any trouble. If your abusive partner somehow finds out, and shows up to stop you (which is illegal) it will be a good idea to have the police already there.

10. Call a Lock Smith

If you plan to stay in the home and kick out your partner, you will also need to have a rock solid plan in place. Most abused women find it safer and easier to relocate themselves instead of their abusive partner, but it can be done. If you have proper documentation of his ongoing abuse, you should be able to get a restraining order. Once he is out, call a lock smith and have all the locks changed. You may also want to have a security system installed or have the code and password changed on the existing one. Before making this choice, please get all of the professional advice you can pertaining to your specific situation.

11. Get a Restraining Order

Once you have left him, get a restraining order. You want to have documentation in place to be able to have him easily removed when he starts harassing you. Remember that this is not the time to feel relaxed. This is the most dangerous time. If he doesn’t come at you with escalated anger, he will come to you with hearts and flowers. They are equally dangerous. If he doesn’t harm you now he will harm you later if you choose to take him back. So, do what you can to cut all contact with him.

12. Take Time to Heal

Once you get out of an abusive relationship it is time to begin your recovery. Finding a therapist who specializes in domestic violence is always a good idea. You’re broken and will require help putting yourself back together. You may suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or depression. Don’t ignore this very important step. You won’t be completely out from under the abuse if it is still affecting you. You also don’t want to repeat the mistake of getting into a relationship with another abuser in the future. It will take time, but you will heal from your experience.

Making the decision to get out of an abusive relationship is extremely difficult. People must understand that women who are in the situation are suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Although the term was first associated with kidnap victims, it also applies to women who are unable to leave abusive men. By changing the perception of the problem, perhaps more women can find the strength to leave and more people will be willing to help. If you are in an abusive relationship or suspect that someone you know may be do everything in your power to get the help you need.


Below are some Help Links:

http://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.1800respect.org.au/

http://m.whiteribbon.org.au/finding-help

Prayer to Cut Soul Ties Links: http://www.missionariesofprayer.org/2010/11/prayer-cut-soul-ties/


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Art of Resting [Art de repos; Arte di Riposo; Arte de descansar; 休息的艺术]

  
Good Day, Beautiful People!

Sorry for not writing in as much as before.  Sometime life throws you a curve ball, you need to respond wisely. The need arise cause me to take a short sabbatical and chill. 

In our modern days, busy lifestyle, rest is the last thing we have in mind for most of us unless you’re retirees or in between jobs  or force to rest at home. 

Depends on your personality, I certainly find myself in the space that I have to labour to rest. My body is forced to rest to restore to good health. 

  
Learn to rest in the fullness of His Grace. 

Learn to sleep well and take cat nap.

Learn to declare and claim His Promises of health and wholeness.

Learn to relax and chill with good praise music, podcasts and books. 

Learn to be patient during the wait. Do constructive and productive thing like reading or encouraging someone while waiting. 

Learn not to get annoyed looking at things need to be done and yet unable to be done at the time frame.

Learn to receive help is pretty humbling experience. Especially you treasure your independence ability to do most stuff on your own.

Learn to be grateful in small things, in daily progress, in true friends that lean in and care. 

Learn to surround yourself with joy and happiness whatever that is.

Learn to run again eventually.

Whatever is worrying you, forget about it! Take a DEEP BREATHE and TRUST GOD!  

   
    
 

  
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Eat Clean [Mange proprement, Comer limpio]

 
  
Good Day, Beautiful People!

I’m NOT here to condemn anyone lifestyle or eating habit. Is all about what you want to embrace in your life? What is your priority? I’m not 100% there. Sometimes, I’ve indulgence as I’m a real foodie after all. I’m always a work in progress towards my goals and aims in getting the fullest out of life.

Often I ask myself, most people don’t care of what they eat until their health are compromised. Guilty charged, writer included. I had a major health scare 2013 that make me review my life. Ask myself truthfully, what changes must I make as God graciously give me second chance of life that I’m not going to waste it!  I want to live my life purposefully, consciously and intentionally not leaving to fate or my stupid choices or whatever life take over. 

These are some of my little self reminder:

  
  
  

Sharing one of my own favourite fruits and vegetables juicing recipe in the morning. I prepare the chopped vegetables and fruits the night before and put them in the blender, keep it in the fridge. Ready to juice the next morning.

  
Choose no GMO, chemical free and organic if you can. If budget constraint, or the preferred options not available soak your vegetables and fruits in 1 part vinegar and 2 parts water and sea salt for 15mins to wash off surface dirt and chemical. Better still grow some green if you can like some of my mates that have green thumbs.

Ingredients:

Garlic 1 clove

Ginger zest or grate 1tsp

Flaxseed  1 tsp

Omega 3  1-2 capsules

Beet 1 small or 1/2 big

Celery 1 stick

Blueberries or mix berries 1 small handful

Carrot 1

Chia seeds 1 tsp

Mint  a few leaves

Basil a few leaves

Parsley a few leaves

Lemon juice 1 tsp

Apple Cider Vinegar  1 tsp

Manuka or raw organic Honey 1 tsp

Coconut or organic yoghurt  1-2 tbs

Almond or Coconut or any milk 150ml

Water 150ml

Blend and drink up! 

Hope you give it a go!  Enjoy, Bon appétit! 

I leave the best for last… Can’t do life without humour.

   
 

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Seven Bridges Walk

  
Good Day, Beautiful People! 

October is flying too fast for me. Work front is demanding and not forgetting all the commitments and social engagements. Too many things to do and have enough time for everything as usual.

Here October we try to create all cancer awareness, especially pink ribbon. Some call me crazy to sign up for 27km, seven bridges walk for Cancer Council. I never walked that kind of distance before. It was my very first try.  Last year I did city to surf which 14km run for those who already following me  last year knew this. There are a few reasons why I do this walk. It is my personal healing journey, to raise awareness, fundraising, in rememberance of loved ones who fought cancer and migrated to heaven and friends that went through cancer hell and back. Some still awaiting for God’s miracle for their lives.

Every time, I sign up for something tremendous or enormous, something will play up or the enemy will try to create a havoc in order to get you. A bit anxious since I signed up, my body was not 100% again. I had bad hayfever, sinusitis and allergy itchy cough. Normally, I’m a person who love to embrace change, a challenge and try new things. Life is too short to do the same old things.

Well, I’m determined to finish the daunting 27km long walk. I prepared my heart and body for the big day, 25th October 2015.  This fundraiser event is hosted by Cancer Council NSW yearly to raise money for research and create awareness for different cancers. They’re celebrating 10th anniversary for seven bridges walk this year which is pretty special. 

Some of the word I meditate:

I can do all this through Him who gives me strength. – Phil4:13

Be strong and courageous. – Deut31:6

I will never leave you nor forsake you. – Heb13:5

For nothing is impossible with God. – Lk1:37 

The fact about long walk is not only great to train your mind, body and spirit to the next level of good positive thinking, endurance, perseverance, determination, attitude of “DONT GIVE UP!”and toughen your body. It also helps you to clear your mind of all the garbage, detox your mind and focus on the things that really matter.

The map of the 27km 7 bridges walk:

So pleased to let you know I did it and complete it with my walking buddy and a few other friends. There is a will, there is a way!  By the way, age is not the limit. As I have witnessed kids as young as seven and silver hair seniors in their seventies or eighties doing it and complete the walk.  Not forgetting,  moms and bubs with prams and people who are physically challenged who managed to do this walk! 

I proud to show you some photos I’ve taken on the walk.




  
  






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You say…He says…

  
Good Day, Beautiful People! 

Your brain is  the most fascinating organ in your body. It is also the most complex organ.  It controls all parts of your body. 

Your beautiful mind can take you places that your feet have not wander. It can be the most powerful weapon or destructive ammunition. 

“75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally. It’s an epidemic of toxic emotions. 

The average person has over 30,000 thoughts a day. Through an uncontrolled thought life, we create the conditions for illness; we make ourselves sick! Research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones. There are INTELLECTUAL and MEDICAL reasons to FORGIVE! Toxic waste generated by toxic thoughts causes the following illnesses: diabetes, cancer, asthma, skin problems and allergies to name just a few. Consciously control your thought life and start to detox your brain!

Medical research increasingly points to the fact that thinking and consciously controlling your thought life is one of the best ways, if not the best way of detoxing your brain. It allows you to get rid of those toxic thoughts and emotions that can consume and control your mind.

Change in your thinking is essential to detox the brain. Consciously controlling your thought life means not letting thoughts rampage through your mind. It means learning to engage interactively with every single thought that you have, and to analyze it before you decide either to accept or reject it.” – Dr Caroline Leaf

Your mind is a powerful thing when you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.

  
  
It is not too late to change and train your mind. I leave you with this wisdom.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. -Romans12:2

Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts. -Proverbs4:23

  

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